The One With The Invitation
Season 4, episode 21
94th overall episode of Friends
Rachel decides not to go to Ross' wedding.
Episode Information

April 23, 1998

Written by

Seth Kurland

Directed by

Peter Bonerz

Episode Guide

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"The One With The Invitation" is the twenty-first episode of the fourth season of Friends, which aired on April 23, 1998. This is a clip show.


Ross and Emily are mailing out wedding invitations. Emily is surprised that Ross is planning to invite Rachel given their past relationship. This causes him to reminisce about their relationship and break-up, and still chooses to invite her despite their history. Everybody gets an invitation, but Phoebe can not travel to London due to her pregnancy. After Rachel reminisces about her past relationship with Ross, she decides to not go to the wedding, explaining to Monica that she can't watch Ross get married to another woman. She also says she needs to look after Phoebe as she goes into her third trimester.


Cast and Crew

Main Cast

Jennifer Aniston - Rachel Greene
Courteney Cox - Monica Geller
Lisa Kudrow - Phoebe Buffay
Matt LeBlanc - Joey Tribbiani
Matthew Perry - Chandler Bing
David Schwimmer - Ross Geller

Supporting Cast

Helen Baxendale - Emily Waltham
James Michael Tyler - Gunther
Lauren Tom - Julie (archive footage, uncredited)
Cynthia Mann - Jasmine (archive footage, uncredited)
Christina Pickles - Judy Geller (archive footage, uncredited)
Elliot Gould - Jack Geller (archive footage, uncredited)
The Horrible Woman - Camille Saviola (archive footage,  uncredited)
Ayre Groves - Michael (archive footage,  uncredited)
Michael Gary Bower - Roy Kubrick (archive footage,  uncredited)
Angela Featherstone - Chloe (archive footage,  uncredited)
Dan Gauther - Chip Matthews (archive footage, uncredited)


Directed By:
Peter Bonerz

Written By:
Seth Kurland



  • This is the first clip show on Friends.
  • During a flashback when Ross and Rachel are in bed and they had gotten back together after their break, Ross screams out "We were on a break!" and we see him screaming this in the bedroom. In the actual episode, we only hear his voice screaming the words, while the audience sees the main room of Monica's apartment. Presumably a different cut was used.
  • Ross' memories about Rachel happen out of order. The incident with Paolo's cat happened after the night Ross and Rachel did laundry together, but is shown beforehand in the sequence. Rachel's memories also are out of order as the scene in the planetarium is shown before the prom video.
  • In the uncut DVD version, there's an extra scene after the intro where Emily is able to put Ben down for a nap, whereas it usually takes Ross 2 hours to put Ben down.
  • The address on Rachel's invitation reveals the address of the apartment building to be 495 Grove Street although all external shots are of 90 Bedford Street.
  • Joey and Chandler discuss renting Die Hard while in London. Die Hard starred Bruce Willis who appears in two seasons time as Paul Stevens. Joey, Chandler and Ross later watch Die Hard in "The One With The Nap Partners" (twice).
  • Phoebe complains about not being allowed to fly during the third trimester of her pregnancy. Lisa Kudrow was heavily pregnant during filming of this episode; and therefore would not be able to travel to London for the production of "The One With Ross's Wedding".


  • When Phoebe says that Ben addressed her invitation, her envelope has several lines of writing on it. However in a later shot it only has one line of writing on it.
  • In the clip from "The One Where Ross Finds Out", Rachel opens the doors straight away after opening the top bolts but in the actual episode the bottom bolt remains in place when she tries to open the doors for the first time. She may have been focusing on the intensity of the moment while reliving the flashback or a different take was used, especially as Rachel shouting "I don't need your stupid ship" is omitted.
  • The handwriting on the envelope is completely different from the one on the invitation to Rachel, yet from the dialogue it is clear that Ross wrote both.
  • In the scene with Emily and Ross in his apartment, there appears to be the beginning of a baby bump on Helen Baxendale.
  • The address on Rachel's wedding invitation is actually in Brooklyn rather than Greenwich Village where the apartments are supposed to be.
  • All of the gang except Phoebe and Ross live above the coffeehouse so it makes no sense why he would post them, especially as a later episode shows Rachel collecting her mail from a pigeon hole in the apartment block. Ross could simply have put their invitations in the pigeon holes, especially if he didn't want to give them out personally. He may also have been too shaken up to visit Rachel's apartment to give her her invitation directly because of Emily's concerns.

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Preceded by
"The One With All The Wedding Dresses"
Series Four Episodes Followed by
"The One With The Worst Best Man Ever"
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